Random side-note: when it comes to google analytics, California just beat Colorado in number of page visits to my blog.

Where are my 303s representin’???

I’ve never been very into how many people view my blog. I mean, I always look and see if people are reading it, but I’ve never really seen it as a competition. But now, it’s just exciting. It’s so great to know I’m reaching people and people are enjoying what I write. As I’ve stated many times before, it’s what I live for. And it’s just about as flattering to me as you can get.

So, thank you. 🙂

Now, back to our regularly scheduled programming.

Let me preface this by saying that this entry stems from a conversation I had after a first date, not the first date itself. First dates are hard. Some may argue, as this friend did, that first dates are easy, it’s second dates that are hard. First dates you just ask a million question and try to get to know someone and decide if you ever want to see them again. Cake. But, a second date is a bit trickier. A second date means that the first date went well enough that you both want to see each other again. But now what. You’ve asked all the “get-to-know-you” questions, you’ve talked all the small talk one can handle. So what do you talk about now? The night begins with a timid “hey, how are you doing,” it’s full of awkward silences and then ends with the even more awkward, ass-out hug. Great.

See, I think first dates are hard. Yes, it’s fun to begin to get to know someone. Ask questions about family and work and goals and life. That’s all fine. It’s when the conversation leads to talking about past relationships and exes and personal life experiences that it tends to get tricky. See, my life is an open book (duh). I don’t necessarily mind it. But sometimes it does lead to an over-share of information.

So, what is too much for a first date? Is there too much information for a first date? Why does there have to be a limit? Why is it that when you share too much, you more than likely scare people away?

These are all things I am still learning, and will probably continue to learn for the rest of my life. Just what is too much? I guess I can argue that I would rather know as much about a person as possible on the first date so I don’t waste any more time with them if I don’t have to. Then again, you can argue that too much information takes away from the excitement of getting to know someone and can be a “buzzkill.” Who knows.

In any event, I am still learning to keep my mouth shut – but if I want to talk, I’ll talk. So there.