2013 has been a tough year so far. We’re already four months in and I’m wondering both where the time went and why it can’t go faster. Now, in the scheme of things, this year hasn’t been that bad (grass is always greener, right?). But I’ve been presented with some interesting challenges — life has thrown me just a few curveballs. Most of which have pelted me directly in the forehead.

I don’t consider myself a very “religious” person. However, there’s a little piece of me that’s been clawing its way out recently.

I’ve written about my desire to control everything in my life. Anyone who knows me, knows that I’m a planner. I plan dates, weekends, trips, meals, everything that can be planned will be planned.

What this year has forced me to do is let go a little bit. Realize there’s only so much we can control and at some point, we have to take a step back and let the Universe take it from here. We can laugh at unfortunate circumstances and know in your heart of hearts that “everything happens for a reason” and that this is “part of the Universe’s plan.”

I know, it sounds hokey but I really believe it to be true.

To help remind me, there are a few things I try and remember when I start to feel a little helpless.

1. Life is a gift. I am not a toilet seat, a rock, or the color purple. I’m not an apple or a pair of jeans. I am a human and everything I do, say, think, is all part of my human journey.

2. Impermanence is the only real thing we can count on. Everything changes. Death is inevitable and may come without warning. Don’t push these truths away.

3. Love isn’t in things, but in people.

4. Karma is real, man. Every action has a reaction. Choose to be kind and I swear, that kindness will come back to you in one form or another. Same goes if you’re an asshole.

5. It’s impossible to be happy all of the time. Therefore, it’s okay to sometimes be sad. (Make sure it’s not just because your thyroid is out of whack — thanks, Mom). See number 2 — things change. Not just for the worse, but for the better, too.

I’ve been trying to remember these things every time I start to feel a little defeated. A little let down or frustrated with circumstances. Four months into this year and the Universe is slowly earning my trust. And I’m okay with that.